An improved echo control system has an adaptive controlled echo canceling filter arrangement in which a background filter updates the filter coefficients of an echo shaping filter responsive to a normalized least mean square (NLMS) algorithm. An adaptive control module determines a weighted reference signal for the background filter in which the weight is proportional to a far signal reference and an estimate of the norm of an echo canceller error vector, and inversely proportional to en estimate of a residue of the echo canceller. And a non-linear normalized convergence term is used in the NLMS algorithm.