Described herein is a method and system for connecting and matching users in an electronic dating service. In one embodiment of the invention, subscribers, or users, of the dating service are connected for a brief duration of time. During that time the users have a date, or more specifically, a real-time conversation. After the real-time conversation, the users are disconnected from each other and separately asked if they enjoyed the date, or in other words if they felt a mutual attraction, and if they would like to have further contact with each other. If both users respond affirmatively then they are allowed further contact with each other.