TIME OUT is a participant assisted system and process that can help participants learn to modify their inappropriate behavior in the classroom and/or in life. The educational, interactive computer program can guide the participant with pre-recorded or interactive verbal directions, videos and exercises in experiential learning. The system and process can have a Bio-feedback Check that measures the participant's level of stress at the beginning of the process and after the process has been completed that can measure the physiological change created by participating in the process. The particular exercise can be automatically chosen for them for the specific inappropriate behavior, specific age group and experience with the TIME OUT system and process. Each TIME OUT can be automatically saved in their TIME OUT Tool Kit. The system and process also can include off-site electronic or manual coaches that the participant accesses through the system. Some of the older and more advanced participants may be automatically offered access to mentors and apprenticeships.