The present invention is directed to a system and method for administering Peer to Peer (P2P) query messages within a P2P network. The present invention collects a plurality of metrics for each host that it is aware of in a P2P network, most often by a host information or query hit message. The metrics collected aid in determining a set of P2P hosts best able to fulfill a query message, without having knowledge of specific content. The metrics collected also aid in managing query messages in that they determine when to drop query messages or when to resend query messages.