A system and method for handling an electronic communication such as an email, an instant message or a chat room statement. Instructions receive and parse the electronic communication. URLs within the parsed electronic communication are identified and categorized as appropriate or inappropriate. The electronic communication is routed as a function of the categorized URLs--appropriate electronic communications are routed to the addressee; inappropriate electronic communications have controlled access. Also included is a system and method for controlling access by third parties to web pages including instructions for parsing a web page, identifying URLs within the parsed web page, categorizing the identified URLs, and permitting third parties to access the web page as a function of the categorized URLs.